(The intro and ending of every stream of consciousness post will be a tribute to dailygrace)
“Hey guys, you know what day it is – Sexy Friday, Sexy Friday, Sexy Friday, SEXY FRIIDAY!!”
Note to self: This needs to be published in less than 3 hours so the DailyGrace intro makes sense. Edit: WOW you just solved the time issue by taking out many subjects and reorganizing them into individual posts. Thank God I don’t do this for a living.
1. This past week or so two facebook posts caught my attention. The first was A’s who shared in my primary school class facebook group.
and the other was by JPC, a schoolmate notorious for both good and bad deeds, with a notable one being him touching the posterior of an attractive music teacher.
In both cases, ostensibly the writers intended to convey a message addressing a larger point, but I just cannot help but feel that their intention has been marred by making the post more about themselves than the larger issue. Admittedly especially for the first post, perhaps my view has been clouded by my personal opinion of him, but I do think that there are still visible traces of this “making the post about me but disguising it as not”. But the second one is really fucking obvious. Unquestionably he has done a good deed by stepping in to stop an incident which he disagreed with, but I think it would be hard to argue that the most effective way of spreading the message of stopping sexual harrassment would be to share a post giving yourself a pat on the back for being a hero. (Perhaps his intention of doing so was that if he could do it then anyone can, but I would say that it is highly unlikely) It is my sincere belief that writers seeking to put forth a larger point should put themselves in the background and put the message and/or experiences of the victims in the foreground. If that is truly their intention. It pains me that self serving individuals capitalize on such opportunities for likes, and pains me even more that people seem to buy it. But maybe I am being cynical, as my teacher puts it. Regardless it is a good sign that articles like Ellie Taylor’s Topless Selfies and Chinese Takeaways are still being written. Thank you
2. Yesterday’s JB trip was quite fun. Dim Sum at Canton-I was quite horrible, special mentions go to the custard in the 流沙包 for being almost completely solid and inedible. The only acceptable (based on a restaurant dim sum standard) dishes seemed to be the 皮蛋瘦肉粥 which is always enjoyable when it is well seasoned and the stir fried beef kway teow. Ant man 2 was brilliant! (Review in another post after I watch Ant man 1) Quite a nice warm fuzzy feeling (I sound like the Grinch) when Rico (Interestingly the only name of a personal friend I have not made it more difficult to identify), Zea and the Wong brothers all really enjoyed the banana cake I bought (and delivered!) to them. It is quite weird though how Rico’s family don’t seem to have much planning when dividing food, the first time his sister didn’t get to eat it and the second time he didn’t get it. But the most amusing reaction was probably Zea texting me 5 minutes after she got the cake that it was all gone. And it hadn’t really crossed my mind until yesterday that being awake at 1am is quite a hassle especially for those who already start working. (I think this complete lack of organization is really in the style of Grace Helbig’s Stream of Consciousness videos, so that’s a good thing). And of course it’s always funny to watch Jon gorge himself on two plates of noodles at Ho Seng Kee (nothing in that place was my cup of tea). Also will there ever be a time when we visit City Square and NOT buy Lavender’s kaya and rum and raisin pastry?
3. Ok let’s with a more meaningful anecdote about the importance of employer-maid communication. Recently my paternal cousin Y had to sack her maid because she borrowed money from loansharks who went to harrass her. Of course the maid was at fault, but my cousin should have known communicated more. Anyway the main point of the story is how differently my maternal aunt M handled the situation. Her maid confided in her that she faced monetary issues because natural disasters (which villages the Philippines seems to be prone to) meant that her house needed to be rebuilt. And so she willingly lent the maid money, and deducted a portion of the loan from her monthly salary. In addition, she also helped the maid open an account to save $100 every month, so that she can bring back a significant amount of money for her children when she eventually returns home. Blind proponents of individual freedoms will argue about how the mandatory saving account takes away the maid’s liberty yada yada, but this looking out for others and wanting the best for them is the sort of interpersonal relationship and management that I want to see and implement in future.
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